Lets wind back the clock.

When we are born we arrive psychically intact and whole. As very young children we spontaneously expressed our true selves – warts and all often to the disapproval of our parents and other family members!

However, through a process of domestication we somehow lost touch with our real selves. An internal psychic split was created through this process and the split is between our “true authentic selves” and the “false selves”  which grow out of our socialisation experiences.

The “false selves” quickly assert dominance over our “true selves” which get buried by the layers and layers of mental constructs that are required to keep the false selves in place.

It is this very split which is responsible for that nagging feeling we have that there is something missing from our lives and of course there is. Unfortunately we only perpetuate this split by looking in all the wrong places for what is missing.

We start to believe that there is something wrong with us and feelings of fear, anger, guilt, frustration, meaninglessness etc create an inner conflict which only manages to further solidify and complicate our psychic split.

We notice that the inner conflict can be temporarily subdued by keeping ourselves occupied and distracted. However, there are moments when we are alone (all one) when the sense of unease and fear of loneliness return.

The fear which is generated from this sense of aloneness (or psychic death) is exacerbated when we experience a significant life event or other trauma. This is what is often referred to as “the dark night of the soul”.This is when cracks in the facade of our false selves appear and allow the light of our true being to shine through.

It is during these periods that we can feel as though we are disappearing into a huge abyss as who we had thought we were for most of our lives starts to fade away. Such events can be the catalyst for our rediscovering who we really are and is an opportunity to heal the split and to be whole again. When this happens we come back home to our selves and realise that what we had thought was missing and had been searching for has been there all along.

The truth that we are divine spiritual beings becomes  self evident. After such a realisation there is little incentive to want to become lost again in the human experience. That of course does not mean that we withdraw from living our lives. We simply live our lives from a simpler but bigger perspective knowing who we really yet still playing the game to its fullest.